Monday, June 22, 2009

Tough Questions

A lot of people come to me for advice. Maybe it's because I've read countless self-help books. Maybe it's because I watch Oprah. Or, maybe it's because I have a lot of training and experience in coaching and counseling. I'm not sure. I'll admit, I don't always have good answers. But, what I do have is usually more important: good questions.
Before you can create the life of your dreams, you need to be really clear on what those dreams are. It takes real courage to look inside. Here are some tough questions (that along with your gut feeling when you ask them) can help you live with authenticity. Just taking the time to write down your answers will start a powerful process.

What are your dreams, goals, values, and desires? Be open to whatever answer comes to you. Don’t censor yourself. See what feels right and what thoughts make you smile. What are you excited to pursue? Be careful not to get sucked into what other people think is right for you, or what you think you should value or desire. Next, ask yourself if right now you are moving towards or away from your goals, dreams, values, and desires.


  1. I agree with you that it's really important to answer these questions (I'm in the process of working through these things right now as I enter a new phase of life). I would also add that it's important to "re-check" your answers to these questions and give yourself permission to change course when necessary. Thanks!!

  2. Great post, as always, Kathianne! I've been working on this a lot lately!

  3. You and I are definitely on the same page here--it's very important to figure out exactly what you want. If you don't even know what you want, how can you expect to get it? Great post. :)

  4. What a great post! Thank you for your sweet comment on my blog!

  5. Anonymous10:44 AM CDT

    At almost 60 years old, I've asked and answered these questions more than once. so, I agree with Kristen that we need to go back and re-check the answers. But, also remember that with age and life experiences the questions can also change dramatically. My journey now, not necessarily "goal"' is peace, doing what make ME happy, and long life. I wouldn't have said that 20 years ago.